The Best Handful of Tips 13 – Remembering people’s names
People are flattered if you can refer to them by name. Most people are good at remembering faces but many are embarrassed when introducing someone because they have forgotten their name.
Some people owe their career success to their ability to recall names and details. From today, make a special effort to master the art of remembering names – it will prove to be a valuable asset.
First, focus on the person and their name. Concentrate and make a real effort to remember.
The best five tips to help you remember people’s names
1. Discuss a person’s name with them
“That’s an unusual name. How is it spelt? Are you related to Lee ………” Have you any idea of the origin of your name?
After learning a new name repeat to yourself silently a few time. If you can do this you will find you will have a greater chance to remember the name. “Bill Breeze, Bill Breeze, Bill Breeze, Bill Breeze.”
2. Jot down the name
Carry a small notebook and make a note of new names so you can enter them in your diary, or into your address list. Writing down the name is a great reinforcement.
This is especially important if you travel a lot, have staff in many centres or are involved with national or international organisations or companies.
If possible, ask for a business card to reinforce the image. Often a note on the back can be a memory jogger. “Married, three boys. Keen on dogs and cricket.” If you meet them in a year’s time they will be impressed if you ask “How are your boys doing at cricket?”
3. Repeat the name often
Keep using the name in the conversation and especially as you farewell them. “Well Jean it was great to see you again. Let’s hope we will be able to have another chat again soon.”
4. Associate a name with an object or another person
Mr. Foot, Miss Baker, John Woods, Mr Moss.
Longer names can often be divided into memorable sections Green field, John son, Hop kirk, Smith field, Leather man etc.
5. Make connections
Try connecting names to people you may know. A similar name to a close friend for example.
Connect names to physical features. Mr Hookman may have a big nose, Longfellow or Longshanks may be tall.
Make a commitment to start learning names. Start modestly. “I will see if I can learn and remember five new names today.”
People will be flattered when you greet them by name, especially if you haven’t seen them for some time.
-Geoffrey Moss, mossassociates.co.nz
“A person’s name is the most important sound they can hear.”
Source: “Time- Savers, Guidelines, checklists and golden rules” published by Moss Associates Ltd, New Zealand, by McGraw-Hill, Australia; Thomson, India and in Singapore and by Cengage Learning, Singapore. Also available as an e-book from Amazon.com.